I read this on the English Sabla forum and I wonder about the "stigma" today in American society. In some countries this is still seen as taboo:Divorcee?
From member JUVE'ntiniya: Like a broken arrow, this matter always goes through my head, since I’ve lived all my life observing quite a lot of divorces going on within my family … Would you look down at a lady who has been divorced a couple of times? Though, it’s truly not her fault, it’s just that bad luck seems to end on her side and she ends up with the wrong person I’ve been told more than once that the society looks down at divorced women, but why? It’s not her fault that God keeps making her experience unsuccessful marriages. Also, would you look down at a girl whom comes from a divorced family, will you judge her based on her parents mistakes? It’s really sad that people judge one another on the mistake of others, or more of God’s will! In my point of view, I think that a girl whom lived and observed such problems in life is more reliable than a girl who lives in a perfect family.Why does the title "divorcee" have a big impact on the thinking of our society?
According to Patrick Fagan and Robert Rector: American society may have erased the stigma that once accompanied divorce, but it can no longer ignore divorce's massive effects. As social scientists track successive generations of American children whose parents have ended their marriages, the data are leading even some once-staunch supporters to conclude that divorce is hurting American society and devastating children's lives. Its effects are obvious in family life, educational attainment, job stability, income potential, physical and emotional health, drug use, and crime. Each year, over one million American children suffer as their parents divorce. Moreover, half of all children born in wedlock this year will see their parents divorce before reaching their eighteenth birthday. This fact alone should give policymakers and those whose careers focus on children reason for pause.
Social science research is showing that the effects of divorce continue into adulthood and affect the next generation of children as well. If the effects are indeed demonstrable, grave, and long-lasting, then something must be done to protect children and the nation from these consequences. Reversing the effects of divorce will entail nothing less than a cultural shift in attitude, if not a cultural revolution, because society still embraces divorce in its laws and popular culture, sending out myriad messages that "it's okay."
I am grateful my parents have remained married for over 41 years. When I tell people this they are so amazed. Not everyone is made to stay married but it does help to try and work through the difficult moments and always cherish the precious ones....the stigma of divorce can be seen I believe with the younger set. I know of someone who is in their mid twenties and has told me that finding a date at their age is difficult once the prospective person knows of the divorce. Perhaps that person thinks there is something wrong with this guy who is just trying to set his life to straights. Not everyone who marries should stay married either because that can lead to some pretty ugly issues down the road, i.e. abuse, infidelity..the list goes on and on.
But most definitly I can see that the stigma associated with a broken marriage is not as strong as say 20 years ago.
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